yeah, but that RFC isn't the only relevant document

Mail RFCs do not cover at all spam detection and malicious mail rejection, but it's a thing every large mail provider has and you really have to care about when producing automated mails all looking similar. And large mail providers like google tend to document what "base line" of additional requirements they have for accepting (automated mail). Having a Message-Id is in there, and in pretty much any larger mail providers documentation about that topic. Tbh. I have worked with mail before a bunch of years ago and the need for Message-Id was back then really no hidden gotcha but pretty well known.

and the design space mail provides is larger then any client could reasonable support (like it's really a huge mess covering docent of standards which allow all kind of nonsense and hypothetical use cases practical unsupported), so you anyway have to look at "what everyone does" and only then make sure it's also RFC compatible, instead of starting with the RFC. That was a painful lessen to learn.

In addition there are some de-facto standards not pinned down in any RFC, like e.g.:

- Message-Id being required for any automated mails by many mail providers (through how bad the consequences are if you don't have it diverges largely).

- You can't punycode encode the local part of an email address (it would be a different email), and there is no standard way (as far as I remember) to convert non us-ascii local parts to us-ascii. This is based on the fact that iff your mail server allows you to have non us-ascii local parts it should also support "internationalized mail" (SMTPUTF8 and co.). But it's a semi industry standard to give the user with an unicode local part also the mail with the punycode encoding of the local part so it often "just works" and dev are frequently surprised when it fails to work...

- You can have quoted text in local part, like whitespaces. But most of the industry decided to not give users such mail addresses so you can see it as soft deprecated and using it is asking for trouble.

- Attachements. The MIME encoding allows a lot of different ways to put mails together and doesn't force a specific semantic interpretation by mail clients. As such you if you naively use it you might run into surprises how/if your attachments or embedding(s) are displayed. Through today embedded resources often are either not done or uses data URLs. Again which ways work well and which don't is somewhat an industry standard and not in any RFC.

- A lot of different ways to encode Unicode to us-ascii. If you produce any mails you probably should by default use the latest revision (where encoding is often just not needed as things are utf8), but might need a fallback with it often being fully unclear if . But if you are a client you probably have to support older versions. And in some parts of the world/business segments usage of very very old mail servers is a thing which is a major pain if you run into it.

so quoting that something isn't strictly required by mail RFCs is kinda pointless as even many things explicitly allowed won't work well in practice

As a rule of thump: If you can afford it test you system will all widely used mail providers as if you where an external customers. And redo the tests yearly.

oh and as a bonus, if you mails looks too similar to known phishing mails it will also just disappear. That seems irrelevant, but e.g. if you use Keycloak with the default mail templates for password reset and co. there is a high chance of your mails ending up in spam or not even being delivered as scammers have used Keycloak for their means, too. And that isn't just a case for Keycloak but any "decently widely used open source software producing mails and having default templates". So you pretty much always need to change the default templates (you will do so anyway for branding, but skipping it in the earliest stages of a startup where branding might still be in flux isn't that uncommon either).

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